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LOVE, HONOR, AND NEGOTIATE: MAKING YOUR MARRIAGE WORK
Carter, Betty
1996 160087 ABOUT THE BOOK Love, Honor, and Negotiate: Making Your Marriage Work FROM THE PUBLISHER In Love, Honor and Negotiate: Making your Marriage Work, family therapist Betty Carter offers a cutting-edge, common-sense approach to helping marriages survive, grow, and flourish: renegotiating the marriage contract. A wife and mother herself - and the first woman to direct a major family therapy training institute - Carter has discovered during her twenty-five years in practice that even the most loving relationships still tend to be governed by the Golden Rule: whoever has the gold makes the rules. Couples today want to be equals, but workplace penalties for taking too much family time force us into traditional roles, especially once we have children. Many women who try to do it all end up exhausted and resentful; women who cut back at work, or stop working, sacrifice financial strength and autonomy. But couples can redefine power to create relationships that value nurturing as much as money. Betty Carter herself and her husband, Sam, have renegotiated their marriage contract three times: when Betty decided to join the workforce again after two years at home with their first son; when her career took off and they both had to learn that less togetherness didn't mean less intimacy; and most recently when their boys left home. FROM THE CRITICS Publishers Weekly As soon as couples have children, the authors maintain, they backslide into traditional, unequal gender roles, with women as homemakers and primary caretakers, men as breadwinners. To remedy this, they assert, men must redefine maleness by devoting more time to nurturing and parenting, and by acknowledging that homemaking is as important a contribution to the marriage as earning money; women must assert their needs by challenging their husbands and giving up their culturally instilled desire to be taken care of; and both partners should cut back on work or career goals and concentrate on more togetherness. The authors also urge the men's movement to focus its energies on fighting for on-site day care, flextime and more generous parental leave policies. Viewing marriage as an unarticulated contract that needs to be continually renegotiated, they combine case histories and clinical insights to guide couples through the stress points that can derail a marriage, such as having children, midlife crisis, affairs, in-law troubles. This enlightening handbook will compel couples to reexamine their power games, hidden agendas and sexual and emotional needs. Carter, a family therapist, trains other family therapists at the Family Institute of Westchester, N.Y., which she co-founded. Peters is a writer and teacher. (June) Simon & Schuster Adult Publishing Group 0-671-89624-5 / 9780671896249
Hardcover Very Good New York
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